Explain several times to the child why the person is not coming. Especially with young kids, they may secretly think that the absent person is angry with them, or no longer loves them. Assure them several times that this is not the case. If possible, have the absent person call and speak to the child. They should describe again why they cannot make it to the party and say they would be there if they could. Hearing from the absent person directly will reinforce what the child has already been told.
Have a gift from the absent person. Even if grandma can't get out of bed, she can tell the child's parents what to get for the honoree 'from her'. A simple, "and this is from Grandma!" can brighten the child's mood and assure them that they haven't been forgotten. It may prove to be a favorite gift.
If possible, have a prerecorded message from the absent person to play the morning of the party. A video tape, voice card, or even an MP3 file of the person's voice can provide comfort and give the child something to watch or listen to over and over again. The absent person could read a story, sing a song, or just send their well wishes.
Place a photo of those absent at the table. Daddy's smiling face, propped up in a frame at the table, can help remind the child that Daddy wishes he was there and will be returning soon. Encourage your child to pose for a picture with the photo to present to the person the next time they see them.
In fact, prearranging a special reunion for when the person is able to attend will give the child something to look forward to. Even though daddy or grandma missed the birthday party, knowing that there is a set date when they will be reunited will help ease any anxiety. A special dinner, trip to the park, or other favored activity is a great way to reunite.
Having a birthday party with someone absent can be hard for a child. By making sure they know that they are still loved and a priority to the person that is missing, the child can accept the absence with aplomb and enjoy their celebration.
'Birthdays' are an important day for the birthday person. Sometimes it is more than just a birthday because it turns into a huge family gathering and everyone one is having a great time.
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